Ariel Psychosynthesis Life Coach - Ariel Bartolo-Kira Music and Yoga

I AM Ariel Eva and I graduated from the Psychospiritual Institute (PSI) in May of 2021, which certified me as a Psychosynthesis Life Coach; the Center of Credentialing and Education (CCE) certified me as a Board Certified Coach (BCC) in December of 2021. I also am a Yoga-Alliance certified Registered Yoga Teacher-500 hours (RYT500), hold a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology, sing and record professionally in a plethora of projects and bands in South Florida, and am a mom to a 2-year-old girl, Harmony Riot. In the language of Psychosynthesis, these identifications are merely roles, parts that I play, but the essence of ME, the “I” identification that we call “self” & ALL share, that is much more expansive and all-encompassing… For the sake of this biography though, we’ll assume the “I” identification is the storied self, sharing its story, in alignment with and from the perspective of the Transpersonal Self.

The self “... is the reflection of the Higher Self, of the Transpersonal Self, and it reflects, however palely, the same qualities of its Source. If you look at the reflection of the sun on a mirror, or on water, you see the light and quality of the sun, infinitesimal, but still the quality of the sun. So that explains why even at the personality’s level the self is stable, sure, and indestructible.”

~ Roberto Assagioli (Psychiatrist & Pioneer in Psychosynthesis, Humanistic, & Transpersonal Psychology)

Each of us contains a self, a contentless center of both awareness and will, yet over the course of our lives, we gain layers of stories, of roles - that we become identified with and often times, we lose sight of the ever-present sun, the Source - that is eternally embedded and interwoven into the essence of life itself, in each of our very souls...

Psychosynthesis can be said to be a process of soul remembrance - a study of the Self - it is commonly referred to as The Science of the Soul, as its theory is rooted in Psychology and its associated laws, principles, and practices AND this framework is rooted in the Eastern tradition that is known as Spirituality and all of its history, guiding principles, and ancestral wisdom. The synthesis of Psychology and Spirituality that is Psychosynthesis is both personally and transpersonally transformative, as it creates an opportunity for conscious and willing individuals to become deeply acquainted with who they really are, expand this sense of Self, and descend their insights into daily, practical application.

The Role of a Psychosynthesis Life Coach (PLC) is to operate as any other personal life coach would - establishing a strong coaching alliance in which clients feels safe, free of judgment, and are held as the creative, resourceful, and whole beings that they are. PLCs focus on identifying and overcoming blocks along the path towards goals and through the discovery of passions, purpose, values, and visions, keeping the intention on healthy forward movement for clients. PLCs utilize the seven core competencies or tools of Psychosynthesis: (1)Will Development, (2)Personal self, (3)Synthesis of the Feminine and Masculine, (4)Ideal Model, (5)Disidentification, (6)Transpersonal Self Identification, and the (7)Superconscious) as a method for guiding a client towards a greater sense of Self-Mastery/Self-Realization and the embodiment of Transpersonal Qualities, such as Authenticity, Confidence, Freedom, Fulfillment, and Harmony (to name just a few) so that they can achieve their goals and manifest their wildest dreams.

In essence, a PLC guides a client in the synthesis of the Self - a harmonization of all of the aspects of the psyche using an unlimited array of techniques - allowing clients to awaken to the truth of who they really are and how they want to show up in the world, and have, with respect to the following components: Mindset - trust of the Self and the internal process, the Will - strong, skillful, and good, the Awareness - impartial, objective, and loving, and the Actionable Steps - specific, measurable, and realistic, that are required to actualize this calling.

Throughout my adolescence and the beginnings of my young adulthood, I struggled with body image, attention-seeking behaviors, my relationship with food, emotional regulation, and my overall sense of self-worth. Singing in bars, I found myself abusing alcohol and drugs, relying on my sexuality for validation in play and in work, and engaging in self-harming masochistic behaviors which landed me in the psych ward a handful of times. The trauma of my youth led to a dark knight of the soul… And I am infinitely grateful that it did. “I” (the wounded subpersonality) held a belief that I only deserved pain and to have bad things happen TO me. I held no accountability even though I sought out situations unconsciously in order to confirm this limited belief. “I” (the seductress subpersonality) held a belief that my sexuality would validate my sense of worthiness and the skinnier “I” was (the eating-disordered subpersonality), the happier I’d feel and the more I’d be accepted and ultimately, loved… These beliefs were limiting me - they allowed me to survive because by nature, they sought to protect me (to keep me from feeling the pain of rejection and to allow me to feel love and connection). For years, I was unconsciously identified with these subpersonalities as well as a multitude of others, which I soon discovered - consciously - that I had the control over (so long as I decided to grab the wheel). These subpersonalities - they were ruling me and I’d long forgotten who I really was and what I really believed. I learned what my underlying needs were and in time, began to find healthier means of meeting those needs without compromising all that I am. I remembered my inherent worth just by being born and being alive in this world. I saw myself from the outside, I created new belief systems about who I was, what I stood for, and why I came here… I fell in love with mySelf at my highest AND my lowest, with all that I ever was, ever will be, and presently am. With this Self Love came the extension outward - to all life and all beings of the Universe. I began to see Self in everyone and in life itself - I fell in love with LIFE, so deeply and so intimately. I was re-born. What catalyzed this re-birth from the death that was my dark knight of the soul?

For whatever reason, at 19 years old, I must have finally been over the experience of willing my own suffering into existence. Upon listening to the lyrics of Trevor Hall for the first time - again, from a lighter ear - I heard his words differently and with a resonance that moved me like never before… “Just close your eyes and hold me, no harm will befall you… it’s what has spoken to me, when I turn down the volume…” & “I am just a color in her unseen picture
A pen in her hand as she writes her scripture. My mother’s village is inside.”

Aside from the gentle nudging of Spirit through the vessel of Trevor Hall, 2 additional, significant insights catalyzed my Spiritual Awakening – the revelation that:

I am not my thoughts, I am their witness - if I can see that a thought, emotion, impulse, image, sensation, or subpersonality has arisen within me, I must not be THAT function of my psyche, rather I - the identification of ME - is outside or beyond what I have confused as ME. If I am not THAT, I am the Witness of THAT.

I am the Universe reflecting upon itself in human form - The Universe in all of its forms (yet) have been unable to see and be in awe of their own majesty… though, ME, Universe embodied in human form, has evolved with the purpose of doing just that. I now bask in the beauty that is Universe, that is ME, and I cry - unapologetically.

To say these were major paradigm shifts would be an understatement, for certain. Sobriety, healthy living, and motherhood were just around the corner. On 11/11 of 2019, I birthed my first child, my daughter, Harmony Riot, into existence in a tub in my living room; I had the privilege of experiencing a natural water birth and delivered the blessing that is Harmony into this world. Yet, with motherhood comes a plethora of responsibilities, and as much as I’d grown, I soon discovered how much the work of self-development and spiritual-expansion requires consistent integration and application.

As a new, young mom, I have found myself - frustrated with not feeling ready or good enough of a mom, feeling triggered and drained, ashamed of my postpartum body, doubting of my creative potential, and afraid of losing myself and my dreams in the shadow of my precious child.

I made a willful decision not to abandon mySelf, and during the COVID-19 pandemic, I committed to completing a 300-hr RYT program to continue my yoga education as well as a Psychosynthesis Life Coach program at Psychospiritual Institute (PSI)… and I did just that, all while remaining powerfully present to my child’s first 2 years of life on Earth.

The teachings of Yoga and Psychosynthesis in theory and in practice have allowed me to discover a gentle grace, an authentic freedom, and a means of living and creating in the space of my passion.

Identifying with and operating from the center of consciousness, the loving observer - realizing myself as both awareness and will without content- has profoundly contributed to my being able to recognize when I’m too deeply identified with any of my thoughts, feelings, emotions, and/or the characters (subpersonalities) of my psyche that aren’t presently serving my highest Self and vision.

I have learned and applied the tools of disidentification, integration, and Self-identification, which have allowed me to overcome the perceived experience of being enslaved by the chaos of my psyche.

Identifying with the objective, impartial observer (who can see and make intentional choices) as a consistent practice, has allowed me to channel compassion as opposed to judgment and the shaming of myself, my process, and that of others and their processes.

I have learned humility and it’s synthesis with dignity, contributing to the balanced sense of spiritual dignity that I am so grateful to live out daily. I am able to express in a way that is raw and vulnerable, yet still bold and boundaried.

With music as my personal savior, singing professionally since the age of 16, I have also recognized the voice and the healing qualities of sound as integral in the journey of Self-development and consciousness-expansion that is grounded and descended concretely in everyday living. As such, voice and harmonic exploration is incorporated into what I offer as a guide.

It takes a village and in acknowledgment of the imperativeness of having a reliable network, I have employed methods that have allowed me to build a community of support and structure my days so that I can experience a sense of Balance and Harmony between my creative endeavors and the raising of my daughter. These methods and the technique of this type of organization is, thus, an integral component to what I offer as coach.

What I’ve found is that many women and most new, spiritually-conscious mothers often feel energy-depleted, constantly triggered, ashamed of their bodies, and frustrated that they can’t seem to find time for self-care and self-development. New moms tend to believe that they haven’t evolved nor are they “ready” enough to be good mothers and they fear that they’ll need to abandon themselves and their dreams in order to focus solely on raising their children successfully.

But the reality is that these women and new mothers are unaware of their readiness and their inherent worthiness as both Womban and Mother. They have forgotten their core nature - that they are abundant goddesses with infinite creative potential, possessing everything they need in order to carry out their Vision and their Calling, ALL WHILE being Warrior Womben of the Earth and Divine Mother Goddesses who are raising conscious and empowered children!

I guide spiritually-conscious women and new mothers who feel trapped living in a survival trance (over-identified with roles and feeling overwhelmingly lost, insecure, doubtful, and disconnected) awaken to their authentic Self, remember their divine essence, reconnect to their voice, overcome limiting belief systems, create new cycles of behavior & healthy methods of coping, and harmonize their psyche in a strategically energized and intentional way so that they may fall in love with themselves and with life, learning to live in alignment with an impassioned sense of purpose, serve as present and empowered role models, and manifest their grandest vision and deepest calling!

I know what it feels like to be out-of-touch and out-of-contact with Self or the Sacred Essence of Creation that resides in our temporary vessels, I remember what it’s like to live, lost, and spiritually bereft, a sensation of being soulless, even; I also know and remember what it feels like to awaken, to Self-empower, and to begin to fall in love with the Sacred Self within and it’s presence in the Luminous Life throughout… it is this Awakening from the survival trance, the Empowerment of the Self, and the Harmonization of the Psyche that I am exceedingly passionate about both personally and in the work that I facilitate with my clients, while also guiding the development, grounding, and integration of this work so that they may live a life that is Fulfilling, Impassioned, Enlivened, and Wholly Embodied.

~Artwork by Helena Nelson Reed~

“Psychosynthesis is a method of psychological development and self realization for those who refuse to remain the slave of their own inner phantasms or of external influences, who refuse to submit passively to the play of psychological forces which is going on within them, and who are determined to become the master of their own lives."
~ Roberto Assagioli

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